The One where we Talk || Body Shaming

The One where we Talk || Body Shaming

Hello Guys,

I was shopping in my local town centre yesterday and was obviously in the way of a lady. Instead of asking me nicely to move, she insisted name calling and called me 'fatty' I don't think she realised I heard the remark she had said. I think I was more in shock that she felt the need to body shame instead of being polite. Maybe she was having a bad day, who knows but there is no need to be rude about a complete stranger.  It didn't hurt me in the slightest and I wasn't going to let a comment upset me. 

 I know I'm not the thinnest of people and I'm happy with that. I don't want to be stick thin, I've tried dieting and have found out I have no will power to keep up with it! My body is curvy and that's fine with me. It's just the way that my body turned out. I have wobbly bits in the wrong and right places and I'm ok with that. I'm healthy and happy and that's all that matters. As long as my body is healthy then I'm fine with that, I'm not going to starve myself in order to fit into someones idea of what is beautiful or the ideal weight of a person. If I'm ok with the way that I look and the way my body is, then that's all that matters, Maybe if I want an opinion then I'll ask. If I'm honest I have those days where I think . . .  "I need to get motivated and get fit" And I have taken up running. But only to make my body healthy not to loose weight. As females we all get those days where we think we look awful and you want to hide every mirror in the house and we are all human and it's ok to feel that way one in a while. We are all different and unique and that's what makes us amazing. To be the same and clones of each other would be boring. So if I'm 'Fat' then that's alright with me. I'd rather have a healthy body that I am happy with. 

I feel quite sad that people find the need to body shame or bully others by the way they look. There is enough negativity in the world as it is without people having the need to do this. It might seem like a bit of a laugh when your out with your friends and you see someone who you deem overweight or underweight. Calling them names isn't going to help and can knock their self confidence. You don't know that person or their story. Maybe think before you speak. They are human too, they might be deemed different or be completely different to you but they are still human. They still have feelings and put yourself in their shoes, would you like it if that was you? There are times when you need to bring up worries or concerns about someone appearance. This could be whether they have got too thin or too overweight that it has become unhealthy and effecting their health. And you can only advise someone and getting professional help is always best, if these situations occur. 

From experience I've been mocked for my nose and I was insecure about it enough with out people pointing it out and saying 'Oi, here comes Pinocchio' Yeah my nose might be a bit big, I've come to embrace it and I'm proud to have this nose as it's mine. If you don't like it, don't look at it. I'm not used to comments such as 'you're beautiful' or 'you look pretty' I always thank people awkwardly and attempt to change the subject or I'm sarcastic as I don't know how to respond. As a child growing up I was always compared to my mother. My sister and I were encouraged to be as 'beautiful' as her and even if we tried we would always get body shamed. She was a size 6/8 and would love to rub it into us any chance she could. She'd enjoy the attention it brought her too, she'd forever gloat about how tiny she was when people we knew mentioned it to her. I've always had insecurities with the way that I looked and always felt chubby next to her. I know that I'll never get that tiny unless I starved myself and to be honest I love food way to much to do that! I've learnt that it isn't about what you look like on the outside but it's what's on the inside that counts. You can be socially accepted and look 'beautiful' but might not be a very nice person on the inside. They say 'Never judge a book by it's cover' and it's true. 

  I'm encouraging everyone to embrace the way they look and start loving their bodies and insecurities. I have wobbly bits and scars on my body but you know what. . . . It's my body and I'm happy with it. I'm not going to let some person bring me down because they could be insecure in their skin. As long as I'm happy, then that's all that matters. 

For 2017, I'm embracing my curves and I'm going to love who i am and Body Shamers, your not going to bring me down!! 

Till next time 

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